Updated: Nov 20, 2018
I am currently reading a book called "Breaking the habit of being yourself" by Dr Joe Dispenza and in there are interesting concepts about "US", we as humans. I just finished a fascinating passage about creating your own automatic response in any life situation. If you ever had a thought that drove you crazy, which was triggered by another person, listen up!!!
95% percent of the feelings/emotions we have are habitual in its nature. Let me illustrate that.
At some point in life, we might have seen somebody suffering or indulging in self-pity. Eventually, this person got the desired outcome, which was in this case attention. Imagine further, you had situations in which you acted similarly and it also resulted in attention, which was your goal.
Then the whole train starts rolling. You connect the dots. Self-pity becomes a way to achieve your goals as seen in the example of other person and yourself. Therefore, it seems to be positive because I get the desired reward. That thought just created a new neural connection in your brain which says, self-pity is good 👍🏼
Once this connection has been established it is super easy for your brain to retrieve this information again when a similar situation occurs. This trained over years and years results in a network of many automatic thought responses to any situation you ran into, which are strong, fast and easy to retrieve. This does not only happen with self-pity, instead of with almost every emotion you have had until the age of 35 Those automatic responses are whopping 95% of all your mental responses (which are usually shown in the behaviour).
But as the example shows that might not always be beneficial. This can result in responses, which you think are "normal" but might actually be destructive and not appropriate anymore.
The good thing is those neural connections can be unlearned and transformed into a response that might be more appropriate today and actually give you the chance to create the person you intentionally, consciously want to be.
I know that Dr Joe Dispenza used meditation and visualisation as the tools to "rewire" (as he calls it) his brain. That happens when you instil different thoughts into your neural network and strengthen them every day through deliberate meditations and visualisations. The thought responses you want to have instead of self-pity, for example.
The result will be that the connections in your brain to self-pity physically loses its strength and the alternative thought gets stronger and stronger. This will eventually lead to an automatic response that you want, which is hopefully more positive than self-pity 😉
This literally works with any natural response you have in your head and can lead to a substantial change, physically and mentally.
This is one important aspect in his book but it has much more treasures in it! I highly suggest that you get it because it explains in detail how it works. Additionally, in the end, he gives methods on how to execute on those findings.
Later I'll show how this affected my life without even knowing that research backs up. A small story about me in my late teenage years 😉
Have you ever experienced an automatic reaction or recurring thought that you want to change? Did ever experienced self-destructive thoughts, which seem impossible to change?
Feel free to share your experience! 👇🏻